Valentine’s Day for Real Couples: Intimacy Without Pressure
Valentine’s Day is a very significant day for most couples. To some, it is the next most important day after their anniversary, while to others, it is just as important.
And with the feeling of importance often comes a lot of expectations to make this day perfect, which can be quite stressful, especially for men in relationships.
It is easy to get caught up in the expectations of grand gestures and perfect dates, forgetting what Valentine’s Day is really about: connection.
After all, real intimacy comes from understanding, communication, and enjoying each other’s company, not just chocolates and flowers. So, how do you make this special day truly intimate and loving without all the external pressure? I’ve got some ideas for you!
Old-School Romance and Thoughtful Valentine’s Day Ideas
The first step is redefining Valentine’s Day for you. Focus on quality time spent together over expensive gifts. Perhaps, recall small things you might have done when you were younger and in love.
Did you write love letters to your lover? Maybe you created a personalised playlist just for them. Or maybe you gifted them something that you made yourself, regardless of what it was. Bring back the old-school romance, as well as actions and gifts that send the message “I’m thinking of you” to your partner.
One idea that a former partner of mine really appreciated as a Valentine’s Day gift was a cute memory jar, filled with folded pieces of paper, and each one mentioned a cute memory from our time together.
Things like these are proof that putting a lot of thought into a gift matters way more than the price of the gift. And don’t forget that quality time spent together is very important as well!
Planning a Romantic Valentine’s Date at Home
Consider planning a romantic date at home that starts with enjoying your favourite foods together, continues with your favourite romance movie and ends with passionate sex that makes you forget about everything else around you.
Does that still sound like too high pressure for you? It doesn’t have to be! If cooking is not your passion, order a nice takeout meal that’s reserved only for special occasions like this.
Wear an outfit that makes you feel confident, yet comfortable. No need to strut around all night in those high heels if they make your feet hurt! Instead, choose whatever makes you feel good, whether it’s matching lace lingerie or your favourite pyjamas.
Once you get to the movie part of the date, don’t rush to take each other’s clothes off. Instead, enjoy cuddles and non-sexual touch first. Cover your partner’s body in soft kisses and lightly caress it instead.
Let the sexual tension and passion build. You have all the time in the world to enjoy yourselves, so don’t treat intimacy like it’s a quick Netflix and chill session or a scheduled sex session just for the sake of it.
How to Make Sex More Exciting in a Long-Term Relationship
While it is completely normal that sometimes your sex life stalls a bit in a long-term relationship, there are many good ways to make it more exciting. And for this, I have three core tips up my sleeve.
First, savour every moment. As I mentioned before, don’t rush into things. Sex is not a sprint, after all.
Second, don’t hyperfocus on the end goal. An orgasm might or might not happen, but it is not the sole indicator of great sex. So focus on being in the present moment and treat the opportunity to make love to your partner like a wonderful gift. You have this lovely opportunity to take time, worship their body and connect deeply. Make the best of it!
Last but not least, introduce a sex toy or a few for new and exciting sensations. The use of a sex toy in the bedroom does not mean that you’re bad at pleasing your partner or that you have to compete with it. In reality, you actually care about your partner’s pleasure so much that you enjoy trying out new things with them.
Celebrate Valentine’s Day with the Luxus
And this is where Luxus comes into play to make your Valentine’s Day date truly special.
Luxus is the perfect couples’ toy set that consists of a clitoral vibrator for her and a vibrating cock ring for him.
Once the toys are synchronised via the FeelConnect app, you can pick between speed mode or distance mode. If you choose speed mode, the faster LuxHim penis ring moves, the more intense vibrations LuxHer produces. In distance mode, the closer LuxHim gets, the more intensely LuxHer vibrates in response.
The FeelConnect app makes the customization of intensity, patterns and rhythms very easy and intuitive. You can even save your favourites, so they’re good to go whenever the mood strikes.
Once everything is set up, you will be able to enjoy passionate sex with your partner that will bring you to new heights of pleasure. What better way to celebrate Valentine’s Day than by connecting to your partner in every single way?
Luxus couple’s toy set really is a gift that keeps on giving. While it can definitely make your Valentine’s Day more enjoyable and memorable, Luxus is a great addition to your regular sex life, as well.
No need to wait for special occasions, you can use it whenever you please. Just don’t forget to charge it and clean it between use and you’re golden.
And keep in mind that the Luxus harness is not automatically included with your purchase, so if you want it, come and get it!
Valentine’s Day Is About Intimacy and Pleasure
In conclusion, I’d like to say that while Valentine’s Day is definitely a special occasion to celebrate, it should be all about connection and pleasure instead of chasing for perfection.
After all, nothing shows how much you love your partner quite like loving actions and quality time spent together that brings happiness to both of you.
So, forget the scripts, pressure and stress, and remember true pleasure and connection instead! Happy Valentine’s Day!
Written by
Alison Sparks
Alison Sparks is a fetish-friendly online content creator and a writer who loves to provide GFE. Follow her on Instagram.
